psychology

During the course of my work with men, I discovered that my deep masculine and my deep feminine are complimentary sets of principles, values, and actions.  And as a man, I am essentially unconscious to a good portion of my feminine aspects.  This is the wonderful part of me that allows me to long for her.

As part of a men’s organization, I continued to witness the unconscious behaviors reminiscent of previous men’s groups…sports, politics, business, and sex.  In all my years in gender work, I have consciously taken on the mission of doing my part to bring an end to patriarchy and misogyny.  It is my task to articulate and model a healthy masculine conscious that is in right relationship to the feminine, in an honoring and non-hierarchical way.  I practice that in my marriage, I model it for my 2 sons, and I bring it to the men’s trainings that I lead.

In 1998, I found myself in pursuit of a deeper understanding of the Sacred Feminine.  I traveled to the Arizona desert and did a vision quest.  After 3 days, I had a visitation where She showed me many things about women and the true nature of the dance between men and women.  I returned home and began to write and design a program for women to help them heal their issues with their men and the masculine, through examining their relationship with their fathers.  The result was a workshop entitled “Leaving My Father’s House”.

Many years before, I had read Marion’s Woodman’s book of the same name, about 3 women who come to terms with their own deep feminine by healing their issues with the patriarchy.  Not coincidentally, Marion came to town on a speaking tour for her new book, so I took the opportunity to see her and share the work that I was doing.  A most gracious lady…she gave me her blessing.  I knew my calling was right on target.

Working with women is very different than working with men.  Having not worked with many women before, I had a very sharp and unsettling learning curve.  I am so very grateful to the women who trusted me, for indeed they could sense that I was sincerely in pursuit of a larger planetary healing for all men and women.

My wife was in full support of my work, and that meant a lot to me.  I could never have done the healing … for myself and others … without her love and blessing and trust.  I have been privileged to midwife many women into their feminine power that consciously challenges men and the patriarchy that lives in all of us.

Women in the workplace are the true warriors of our time.  Their struggle is immense, the seduction of masculine power is compelling, the pressure to retain the status quo is enormous.  The very qualities that women despise in men are often the very qualities that establish a woman’s success.  There are not many male voices out there in favor of women’s power, for the temptation is to imagine that it comes at the expense of male power.  But that is not the case:  the true feminine is here to bring compassion, balance, harmony and equality to our planet.

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